whats up with me and my hair.

i didnt do the twists that i had planned on. you know how life is, things get in the way. but i do plan on doing them this weekend. Sunday is the day im looking at.
also i have been looking at my stash of products and it makes me so sad. i cant believe i have all these damn products. dont get me wrong, almost everything i have i love and i actually use them but that is way besides the point. i have realized that the only things i need for my hair are:
coconut oil
coconut milk
honey
shea butter
olive and avocado oils
bananas(actually im going to try this out for the first time on sunday)
water(DUH lol)
oyin honey hemp conditioner and oyin J&B

these are products that i feel like i need. the bananas and coconut milk are what i would use for deep treating my hair. i cant get rid of my honey hemp because i love it too much so thats a keeper. i can make my own spray and please believe i will but i love the oyin J&B. everything else i can get from the grocery store, whole foods and vitamine shoppe.

i also just purchased some indian healing clay. this week has been extra special(and i dont mean that in a good way). this week has taken alot out of me so sunday will be the day for me to pamper myself. i've never used the clay before but i know many people use it on the face and hair. sounds yummy right? of course i will do research on it and come back with that info for you. even if i like what it says about the benefits of using it on my hair i wont do that this week. i think i will just use it on my face and use the banana mix(check out Sunshine's blog, thats where i got the idea from) on my hair. sunshines mix is bananas and honey, i will be adding coconut oil because i cant get enough of that oil.

changes i will be making are:
i will no longer be co washing my hair daily. i may wet my hair most days but i will not be using conditioner, just water. i may co wash twice a week and thats it. also i wont be doing any more overnight deep treatments. i will still deep condition for an hour or two but no longer overnight.
and once all my products(you know, the kbb, curls, blended beauty, qhemet biologics and everything else) are gone and used up i will not be repurchasing.

also, i purchased some african shea butter today. it was sooo cheap at just $5.99. it says its 100% unrefined shea so im happy about that. i already have some shea butter that i purchased off line at coastal scents but that shea butter(although unrefined) is tan in color and the african shea butter is yellow. i just wanted to buy it and see what the difference is. i know when i first started using coconut oil i made the mistake of thinking they were all the same as long as it said unrefined and that is so not true.
the coconut oil i get from GNC is the best i have ever tried. it is soooo silky smooth, completely white in color and smells just like coconut oil. spectrum coconut oil smelled rank and was amber in color. vitamine shoppe's coconut oil is good, i like it but i like it on my face better than my hair. i use it all over my body and as my facial moisturizer. but it will have to do for my hair this time because GNC was all out of coconut oil today and vitamine shoppe has a sale so.....


i know that was a whole lot of babbling and stuff but hey, i just wanted to catch you ladies up :)

how do you detangle?

i always detaingle in the shower. always soak my hair in a thick conditioner first and then using a wide tooth shower comb i start at the bottom and work my way up. thats all. it works out well for me and really if i do this just once a week thats enough. i sometimes use my denman brush which i purchased from Sallys but its not mandetory.
the reason for this post is because i have my eye on a detangling spray by AfroVeda. the ingreadients sound so yummy and i love spray leave in conditioners so this seems right up my alley. except for the fact that i dont need it lol. i mean i know i have many products i dont need but i REALLY dont need a detangling spray. on wet hair my hair should have already been detaingled in the shower, and on dry hair well, i really wouldnt use it because i dont do too much to my hair while its dry.
i guess what im trying to get at is, do you detangle in the shower, only on wet hair?
and if so do you use a detangler in the form of a spray as well?

let me know ladies.

also go to http://www.afroveda.com/ to check out her products. when you run across the Seven products, take a look at that spray detangler and let me know your thoughts.

speaking of love....

i find myself falling deeper in love with shea butter. now i usually dont like shea butter unless its mixed with water or oils but i have been using shea butter by itself this past weekend and my hair loves it so im gonna stick with it. i have a good amount of creamy shea butter that i got from coastal scents and i really like it. now that its hot the shea butter is soooo soft and so it just glides right onto your hair. it makes my hair sooooo shiny and soft. so....HAPPY.
infact im going to twist my hair tonigh using either shea butter and coconut oil or KBB hair cream. karens body beautiful hair cream is nothing more than shea butter, glycerin and a few oils. i love that stuff. i mean i damn near use it everyday.

and speaking of love, shea butter and coconut oil, do you know Sunshine from http://naturalhairnaturalproducts.blogspot.com/? well i just found her blog about a week ago and i just love it. i love how her blog and her personality just seems so bright and uplifting. there are many blogs that i follow and i just added hers to my list because i think she has great information and i usually agree with her POV on many subjects regarding natural hair. that and the fact that i think her TWA is drool worthy lol.
anyway, she has a product called coconut confidence and im going to purchase some this week. you can find more info about her products on her blog mentioned above and also on etsy where they are sold. the coconut confidence is a mix of shea butter and coconut oil. very simple. so simple that i have unrefined shea butter and EVCO at home but i really like the brightness of her lables and i love supporting Black businesses. so i cant wait to give this product a twirl. and because it is an all natural product, and we know the greatness and benefits of shea butter and coconut oil, this product would be great on the hair and the skin.
if any of you have already tried the coconut confidence please leave a comment letting me know your thoughts.

i was scurred

i cant believe i forgot to tell yall that i went to the Exit the Apple store this past Saturday. this is the store in baltimore where the wonderful Oyin products are hand made with love. i cant believe i forgot to post this. anyway guess who i saw.....
ScandalousBeauty. yep i sure did. and do you know i was too scared to say anything. in my mind i kept saying "just tell the girl you love her blog, or you watch her youtube videos, just say something". but instead i just watched her get up and go to the back with The Mixtress. i felt like two pennies.
now how im gonna go back to my blog and let ,my followers know im a punk?
oh i just did.

boyfriend say whaaattt!!!!

yep, this post is about the men. i want to know what does your man think of your hair?

well i went from almost bsl relaxed hair to hair that was so short i might as well have used the clippers. my dad hated it and he let me know every chance he got. he has always thought that women should have long hair and i knew this before i cut it off so his reaction was no surprise. what did surprise me though is that i have the same texture(well not exactly) as he does so why no love. he has type 2b silky curls. my hair is clearly 3c, so while my hair isnt as silky and thin as his the curls are the same. so again, why no love lol.
my SO has seen my hair go from thick past the shoulders light brown hair to thin fire engine red hair. then from jet black almost bsl to almost none at all and he says he likes it. and ya know what? i believe him. when i first cut my hair he said it reminded him of the really short style that Jada Smith used to rock in the '90s. i didnt see it but it made me smile. the fact that he may be lying but said nice things anyway makes me happy everytime i think about it. now he has a habbit of asking me on a daily basis "are the curls poppin' today?" i love it.
he is so supportive. when i get frustrated because the left temple is different than the rest, or that the crown is still heat damaged and i want to chop it all off all over again, he's there to pull me back over the edge and tell me how beautiful my hair really is. he takes hour long trips with me to Baltimore JUST to vist the exit the apple store to get ONE bottle of conditioner. i dont really know if he likes doing this with me but i am happy that he does. i am happy that he cares enough to ride along with me on this journey even though he always say "stop calling it a hair journey, that retarded".

my shea butter blunder

so i made the shea butter i was talking about yesterday. i wanted it to come out like a cream but this being my first time and all, i managed to make a butter. i had no idea i ran out of honey so i am dissapointed to have to report that obviously thats out. so instead i just used the shea, coconut oil, avocado oil and cocasta oil. i used more coconut oil than anything else and i guess that was a good thing because this butter is sooooo silky. it seems like it would make an excellent body butter. anyway i loved the way it smooth onto my wet hair. but it did the thing that i hate most. it gave my hair this filmy look. almost making my hair look ashy. URGHHHHH. i hate that. so while i love the way this butter made my hair feel i hate the way it made my hair look. i only made a small bathc though so i will be using it up. i assume if i put coconut oil over it my hair wont look so ashy lol.

onto the braid/twist out. umm can i get a NO for 500? this is not for me. let me make this clear, the twists were so pretty and i will be rocking twist all winter long. i mean them things were nice lol. but when i took them out what i was left with was what we like to call a hot ass dog doo doo mess. i mean some parts were cute but it seemed like no matter how much i played with it, no matter how much i scruched it together, some parts would not dissapear. now i made these twist somewhat big so maybe that was the problem becuase im still in the twa stage. and there were gaps all over the crown of my hair and they just would not come together for the sake of making me happy. sigh, oh well, maybe next time.

random ramblings and new things

hi all.
i have been pondering (yep, pondering) about making my own cream. i kept thinking about it but never got around to it. well today i have officially decided that tonight is the night that i will make magic. or a complete bust lol. this cream or butter, dont know how its gonna turn out, will consist of unrefined shea butter, unrefine and organic coconut oil, honey and im not sure if i want to use cocasta oil(hairveda) or avocado oil. im leaning towards the avocado oil for several reasons. one reason being that its just sitting on my dresser colecting dust(ewwww).
i dont have any type of mixer so i will be doing it by hand. i will first melt the shea butter in the microwave for no more than 20-30 seconds. then i will add in LOTS of coconut oil.

heres the thing about my love for coconut oil and why i will be adding tons of it into my mixture. for one, we all know that coconut oil is the bomb. it makes the hair bling, cuts down on the frizzies and it is one of the few oils that actually penetrait the hair strand. now i dont know about you but i love oil. so if i use a butter that seems oily or just a tad bit greasy it doesnt bother me as long as it doesnt leave a film on my hair. i touch my hair alot so it needs to stay soft without coating my hand.
the humidity as been crazy lately. yesterday i was driving home(right before someone crashed into me) and i touched my face and couldnt believe how soft it was. it felt so juicy lol. so that got me to thinking about how long its been since i've used my honey. i used to mix it in my deep conditioners as well as my co wash conditioners and my pre poos. its been at least 6 months since i've done that. so since the weather in on my side and i want my hair to feel as happy as my face did last night, i will add some honey to my concoction. honey is great for drawing in moisture and keeping it there. i dont thing i would use it all year long because i think it would have an adverse effect during the colder months.

the shea butter i have had for some months and was using it on my face at night but then i started to break out so that had to stop lol(now i use coconut oil on my face). so i havent done anything with the shea butter in a while. another reason im using it to mix is because shea butter used alone just sits on top of my hair. it does nothing, just sits there. but if i mix it with anything else it is a fab product. adding just water to it does wonders but in this mix i will leave the water out.

although i will be creating other mixes too, becuase i need to exsperiment with some alovera gel, this mix is consisting of things i just have laying around the house.

stay tuned ladies.